Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Whatever Wednesday

Oh after what I just shared-HERE- this is just PERFECT! 

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Its time again for my Whatever Wednesday link up! 
I truly love having you all here to link up a favorite post from you blog! 
Thank you for joining me and linking back here so we can spread the word!

What is Whatever Wednesday you ask...
Its a simple link party where you  come share a bit about yourself, whats going on in your life,  maybe link up a craft, a home renovation, anything really... just as long as its from your blog. 

I only ask that you follow these simple requests:
Please link back to my blog to help spread the word 
Make sure you link up to a specific post and not your main blog page
Take some time and visit others in the party! Its a great way to meet new friends!

Look forward to partying with you all! 


Oh what have I gotten myself into...

Today I am going to share with you some ugly truths & honesty... something I have never said out loud before today... but before I do, if you follow me on Facebook you may have seen my post for help this morning.

"Can someone please tell me- How do you deal with a yelling toddler? I want to yell back and tell him to stop yelling but obviously thats not right lol. What do you do? He is 20 months old and seems to yell about everything- Help!"

It has been a trying time for me lately. My son just turned 20 months and I would say around 19 months he turned into a whiner but just recently a screamer/yeller. He has these short little tantrums about anything and everything and I don't know where they came from.  I feel like a failure, like I somehow made him this way. What did I do wrong,  how did we get here?

I have never felt so out of control. Being a wife, mother and SAHM has always been my dream job! It wasn't until today that I wondered if I am actually cut out for this.  I have never questioned this before. I mean, I've had my moments of concern and wondered how I would handle things but I never doubted my ability to be a good mom before. Please,  don't get me wrong, I love and adore my son and still want 3 more crazy kids running around {insert crazy smile} but I have got to get better at this! How do I be tough and gentle, quiet and loud, a playmate and a mommy, as well as a housekeeper, friend, blogger, etsy shop owner, daughter, sister, neighbor and devoted wife? I want to be all these things and I want to be/do them well! However, I struggle. Today I couldn't handle the noise. So while my son had a movie playing, I put in my headphones. I needed a moment of peace. I was right there with him, but I needed a mommy moment. I needed something other than Baby Einstein and kid whining. I needed a short, two song getaway. {It was fabulous by the way! No matter how horrible it sounds}

I know these moments won't last forever, but for right now it sure seems like forever and I'm not sure I know how to handle it.  I want to be the best mom and "teacher" I can be for my son (and future kids) but right now it feels alike I am failing....

...After my son went down for his nap I took some time to "research" {aka google} his tantrums. There certainly is a lot of information out there. Some I'm aware of, some not so much, and others were great reminders!
Here are some things I found. I hope you find these helpful too if you are going through anything like this.

"This may feel like the last thing you want to do when your kid is freaking out, but it really can help her settle down," Levy says. "I'm talking about a big, firm hug, not a supercuddly one. And don't say a word when you do it -- again, you'd just be entering into a futile battle of wills. Hugs make kids feel secure and let them know that you care about them, even if you don't agree with their behavior." Cartwright Holecko, of Neenah, Wisconsin, finds that it helps: "Sometimes I think they just need a safe place to get their emotions out."

Offer Food or Suggest a Little R&R
"Being tired and hungry are the two biggest tantrum triggers," says Levy. Physically, the kid is already on the brink, so it won't take much emotionally to send him over. "Parents often come to me wondering why their child is having daily meltdowns. And it turns out they're happening around the same time each day -- before lunch or naptime and in the early evening. It's no coincidence! My advice: feed them, water them, and let them veg -- whether that means putting them to bed or letting them watch a little TV." Think how cranky you get when you miss out on sleep or your blood sugar hits rock bottom, he says. With young kids, who have greater sleep and food needs, the effect is magnified tenfold. 

Speak Calmly
This is a biggie -- and is much easier said than done. But experts insist you must keep your cool during a child's tantrum. "Otherwise, you'll get into a power struggle and make the whole thing escalate. Plus, part of the reason kids resort to tantrums is to get attention," Dr. Hoecker says. "They don't care if it's positive or negative attention they're getting. All they care about is that you're giving them 100 percent of it." Levy agrees, and adds: "Talking in a soothing voice shows your child that you're not going to let her behavior get to you. It also helps you stay relaxed -- when what you really want to do is yell right back. In fact, the calm tone is as much for the parent as the child! If you're tense, your kid will pick up on it, and it's going to amp her up even more."

Baby Sign Language- We use some of this now and it does work wonders!

1. Squeeze together the tips of your fingers on each hand to form two points.
2. Touch the tips of each point together, then separate.
3. Repeat Step 2 a few times.

How to handle toddle tantrums from Mother Nature Network

Imagine you have listened to one audio lesson in Swahili. Overnight you find yourself inAfrica. You’re hungry, tired and grumpy. You do not like the situation one bit. How do you get your point across?
“You don’t have the language,” said Susan Epperly, an Atlanta-based parent coach and writer on early childhood. “Your brain is going crazy with all this new stuff, and you have no words.”
This is how toddlers feel, she explained. And this is one reason these children, from ages 1 to about 3 years, throw their knock-down, drag-out temper tantrums: they are frustrated, they sense we as the parents/caregivers are frustrated and they have few other ways to express themselves. Children also are responding to parents setting boundaries; toddlers are mobile and curious, which means we are, for the first time, telling them that dreaded word “no,” Epperly said.
“It’s very natural for these children to act the way they do,” she added.
It may be natural for a toddler to scream, kick and cry at times, but that doesn’t make it easier to tolerate. So how can parents temper those raging tantrums? 

Here are a few tips that I needed to hear today (you can read the rest on their website)
  • Keep perspective. Often parents – especially mothers, said Epperly — believe their children’s behavior is a reflection of themselves. Caregivers need to know and understand that children simply do bad things. “It’s human nature to be a little rotten,” she explained. “That doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with the kid,” and, by extension, you.
  • Ignore some behaviors; react immediately to others, says the AAP site. If you do not respond to minor whining, crying and even stomping, toddlers are less inclined to continue. At the same time, do not tolerate hitting, biting or kicking, or throwing things. Tell the child firmly, “No hitting,” and remove the child from the situation.
  • Take care of yourself, Epperly advised. If you go for a run, get enough sleep, have date nights and time with friends, and partake of your own interests, you will feel recharged and be less apt to be bothered by tantrums. Being clear-headed and eliminating your own stress can also keep your toddler’s anxiety level down, she said, keeping you more tuned in to her needs and ultimately cutting tantrums off before they start.

I would also love your advise as well. How do you handle things in your home? What ways do you use to get around tantrums? Anything you want to share...

Thanks for listening!!!


Friday, April 20, 2012

Friday Date!

Oh how I have missed Friday Dates with you! 
The last 2 weeks have just been so crazy and the day got away from me. 

If you were here with me I would happily offer you something to quench your thirst so we can sit and chat a bit. 
As you saw yesterday, I made a coffee run and actually I picked up some tea too and I have some yummy hot chocolate too. mmm mmm good

When you are nice and comfy I'd love to hear what you have been up to! Has your April been as crazy as mine? Oh course on top of the craziness, its also tax time {BLAH!} I am not a fan! I am a SAHM but my husband is self employed so tax stuff is even more of a pain then usual. Honestly, when I worked and was single, I looked forward to tax time because I actually got a return. It is most definitely not as much fun when you owe them money. {just thought I would point that out, incase you thought it was lol}
On a sorta good/helpful note, we are selling my Honda Accord. The dealership is giving us an amazing deal, so its kind of hard to pass that up at the moment. We did all the math and calculations and it will save us in the long run to sell now and actually lease.  Then in a couple years when we are able to grow our family, this momma will be rollin in a minivan aka swagger wagon.

 Until then, I am happy to stick closer to the ground in another honda accord.  

Other than that, its basically time to really budget and watch our spending (again). We seem to do really good for a while and then kinda let things go...and go. Its just so much fun to buy things for my little and for the house. I love trying to decorate. I say "try" because I am not sure if I always know what I am doing. 

Jumping subjects, because thats how my mind seems to work- I am SO SO HAPPY to see how "normal" my son is acting today! He is actually eating too! He has had breakfast, milk and lunch all before noon! It has been really hard getting him to eat lately.  

So what are you up to this weekend? We are going to be spending more time with my wonderful in laws! I look forward to a beautiful day outside and a fabulous fire tonight! So lovely!!! 

Changing subjects again...
I just finished up 4 orders and they are going out today! I really enjoy my little shop and making special pieces for people! Its the whole reason I wanted to do this! I want to be able to created those pieces for people at an affordable price. I also really enjoy being able to take the time to get to know my "customers" and what their needs are. I have made some great friendships doing just that! I am a small enough shop that I can do that, and I don't think I ever want to lose that. I would rather stay small and personal then big and not know anything about anyone coming to me. What do you think?  Do you agree with that?

Anyway, I have to run and get dressed, I can't stay in my pjs all day. We have a car to sell. ha
Have a wonderful weekend everyone!!
Talk soon!!

Don't forget, you can have another cup with Chrissy from Boerman RamblingsNay form Cover to cover,  Faith from The Life of Faith and link up with Alissa from  Rags to Stitches.

Thursday, April 19, 2012

Thankful Thursday!

I am very thankful today!! My son is not sick, my FIL is home from the hospital and doing well, I have an amazing husband who makes me feel loved, a roof over our heads and food to eat! It's a good day!

Let me tell you what my sweet husband did today that made my day, and he probably doesn't even realize it.  Today he sent me a simple text that said "I love you". Yes that text made me smile but that wasn't it... A few months ago he had to go away for work and before he left we took a picture of us together- just something to have while we were apart. (and a new tradition I am starting) Well this morning he sent that picture back to me... I couldn't believe he still had it. It just melted my heart and made my day!

I love you honey and I am so thankful for you!!!

This is the picture

I am also very thankful for my coffee run yesterday! This was much needed today 
{insert HUGE smile}

My sweet sweet HEALTHY little guy! 
He made the trip with me to get my coffee :) He loved the sheep that was waiting to greet him at kohl's. The sheep had to stay and greet other little boys though

Oh yes, I AM VERY THANKFUL! God has been good to us! 
Even when we struggle, I know God is still there and He will get us through!

What are you thankful for??

Im linking up with:
The Fontenot Four
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Elf House Chronicles a punk, a pumpkin and a peanut
Thankful Thursdays Button 

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

My last couple weeks...

Sorry for my lack of posting these last weeks. 
2 weeks ago my son got really sick and this passed weekend my father in law was in the hospital. So... life has been a little crazy. I have been meaning to get on here and fill everyone in and there just aren't enough hours in the day. :) 

I still feel like I don't have the right words to express my days... so instead you get my life in pictures. 

My beautiful family! 
My poor little sick boy taking a nap with his daddy- love!

Finally when he was up and about and feeling ornery. 
I had my back turned for just a bit putting in a dvd. LOL

Then this passed weekend my father in law was in the hospital. 
I am so thankful that after 3 days he was able to go home and is doing much better!!

This was hilarious! We found out he could go home! 

My sweet little boy finally feeling 100% and spending time with my parents
while my husband and I were at the hospital 

I am in love with this picture of my dad pushing my son! 

Check out my little tree climber!! 
At almost 20 months he is a dare devil!

This is heaven! My favorite pizza ever! 
I never eat pepperoni but love it here

My sweet little taking a nap after falling asleep on me. ahhhh love it!

I was so excited to be able to visit my grandma aka GiGi
She just turned 73!

And here is my little man!
Here turned 20 months TODAY!
I can't believe we have a 20 month old already! 

My big boy!

I would love to see what you have been up to! 
Link up a post from your blog to share with me!

Its Whatever Wednesdays! 

Share a bit about yourself, whats going on in your life. Maybe link up a craft, a home renovation, anything really... just as long as its from your blog. 

Here are just some simple requests:
Please link back to my blog to help spread the word 
Make sure you link up to a specific post and not your main blog page
Take some time and visit others in the party! Its a great way to meet new friends!

Look forward to partying with you


Life in an Instant

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Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Whatever Wednesday Link Party!

First off- Thank you to all of you who joined my link party last week!! I enjoyed reading each one of them! I hope you all had a chance to check out a few and maybe make some new friends. Like....

Samantha from The Peanuts Gang! She shared about her adorable little boys and how they are each growing into their own unique selves.  I loved reading about them and getting a glimpse into her world. 

The Peanuts Gang

Samantha, Thank you for being my first partier and linking up with me!!
If I haven't gotten the chance to say it, I am very grateful for your support. I really enjoy your blog and your comments here! Thank you oh so very much! 
If you don't know Samantha yet, hop over and say hi!
I am sure you will love her! (and all the others too!)

Check out the others partiers from last week HERE

Now its time for YOU to link up one of your favorite posts from this passed week! (or so...) 
Share a bit about yourself, whats going on in your life. Maybe link up a craft, a home renovation, anything really... just as long as its from your blog. 

Here are just some simple requests:
Please link back to my blog to help spread the word 
Make sure you link up to a specific post and not your main blog page
Take some time and visit others in the party! Its a great way to meet new friends!

Again, I look forward to getting to know more of you and read what all has been going on!


Tuesday, April 10, 2012

My sick little

Oh what a long 5 days. My poor little guy has been sick since friday night and he is still sick. We finally took him to the doctor today but it seems he just has a virus that has to run its course. I feel so bad for him! He is mostly sneezing and fussy from his stuffy nose and fever. He has taken 3 little, must needed, naps today and after each one he seems to feel a little better for a bit.

I am so very thankful for this little smile today and praying that he feels better soon! 
Looking forward to life getting back to "normal"

Don't forget about my linky party tomorrow! 
Stop by and link up your favorite weekly post! 
I am so very very thankful to everyone who linked up last week! It was my first link party and I was nervous. It was so great reading everyones posts and learning a little about them!
I hope you will join in tomorrow! 

Sunday, April 8, 2012

Happy Easter!

He is risen, and by His blood, I am saved! 

He is the reason for the season! 
Happy Easter!

Friday, April 6, 2012

5 Things I'm Loving Right Now

I am very grateful to all the lovely ladies who remind us to look at our lives and share what we are thankful for. God is good and I need to always remember to be thankful! 

5 Things I am Loving Right Now!

1. Playgrounds

We have such an amazing time outdoors! I think he would stay outside forever if I let him. 
The problem is always trying to get him to come back in the house...

2. Spring Time

Oh spring time, how I love thee. I don't love sneezing but I love this weather! 
70 degrees is perfect! Last year we went from cold to hot and forgot to bring in spring :) 
I am very thankful for some of the early spring days we have had!

 3. Friendship
I am very blessed by the people in my life and I am thankful for my friend Holly! 
I am excited about the growth and change God is going to be doing in both our marriages as we go through our Bible Study Series "Love & Respect"
Love you girl!

4. Family Hockey Games! 
Oh what fun it is to get out and have some fun as a family!!!

 5. All the fun of dirt!

HAHA he is ALL BOY and loves his dirt and sticks! 
What fun he has playing in the flower bed. 

Come join in and share what you are loving! 

Also join in sharing with these ladies too!
What are you thankful for?

The Fontenot Four
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Elf House Chronicles a punk, a pumpkin and a peanut
Thankful Thursdays Button 

Tuesday, April 3, 2012

Tuesday Ten- Link Parties

Today I wanted to share with you some amazing link parties! Some of my favorites. 

1. Laura from Bits of Splendor

bits of splendor monday
It truly is the little, distinct things that make life big. The important thing is taking the time to see them and I believe it can be in anything. A project, a recipe, a special moment or milestone, maybe just a word or picture you found encouraging. 

"You will miss what matters most in life if you are only ever looking for the 

2. Maegan from Chesterrific

5 Things I'm Loving Right Now!
Can be something coming up that month, or that day or week, or the book you're reading, or the movie you're going to see in a few days, or a new make-up you got, or shoes, or why your significant other rocks your socks, or a new recipe that is delish & makes you smile, or or or ... the possibilities are endless!  Just tell us what 5 things are making you super happy right now

3. Jami from Call Me Blessed

How will you encourage someone today?

Sharing what is on your heart

5. Christy Lee from C.Lee
Please come and link up things that have brought you joy this week or anything fun you would like to share. Linking up is such a fun way to discover other blogs and I would love to read things you have posted about! XOXO

6. Emily from The Anderson Crew
So, I encourage you to Embrace the Camera too.
We have a link up every Thursday.
You don't have to be a mom to long as you are in the picture too, then you're embracing the camera.

7. Sarah from The Fontenot Four
The Fontenot Four
What are you thankful for? Share it here

Hello Hue Little Things
All you need to do is document throughout the week some 'little things' that are a blessing, that make you smile. Could be as simple as the smell of rain on the sidewalks, or a new coat of toenail polish. 

  life rearranged
Capture your week with nothing but a cell phone and then link up!

10. Rebecca from As Simple As That

Welcome to{simple things sunday}this week you guys!
This party is all about celebrating the simple moments and simple joys that make you smile each week. So grab that camera, snap a photo or two and come share with us each Sunday!

And #11 is my very own!
Today I posted about my first ever link party!
I am very excited and hope you all join in!!
Just link up your favorite post from this last week!

You can also stop by where you can find a directory of more amazing link parties!!
You can even add your own! 

I hope you all enjoy these parties and link up your own posts!!
Have a fabulous tuesday! 

I am also linking up to another great party!